Eve's wound [II]

How would you describe today’s woman? I’d call her “a fighting woman”. Above all she fights for her independence, equality, and position. This fight is bloody, deprives of energy and joy, and creates fears for the future.
“Why do you want to be independent?” I asked Megan.
“Why?!” She looked at me. “I don’t need anyone telling me what I can or cannot do. I want to be happy,” she said firmly.
This is where the problem lies. We often confuse happiness with independence. Honestly, these two things have little or nothing in common. If independence can really grant you something, it’s only a small measure of freedom. But that’s not about happiness. Happiness comes from inside and is not endangered by outer occurrences. Happiness may accompany us when we feel loved, accepted, and when we maintain good relationships with others.
The problem with independence started at the dawn of civilization. Let’s take our minds back to Eden. This is where the first act of independence took place. A woman takes control. She talks to a stranger and makes a decision without consultation with her husband. This is followed by a stream of misery. No, I don’t blame the woman for everything. It was surely the man’s fault as well. Adam is soft, does not step up to his role. Instead of using his head as a guide, he follows his heart. He fails as a man and as a family head. Sadly, this history is repeated down to our day.
If you already fight, or you want to begin your fight, your punches must be aimed in the right direction. You must have a strategy. If the fight is doomed to failure, then it’s better not to begin at all — the resulting damage may be too painful.
“The way you chose won’t lead you to your desired destination,” I told her.
“Why?” Megan was unhappy with my response.
“Because it’s contrary to the way you’re constructed.”
Each creation in the universe was designed by God for a specified role. I generally described Adam’s role in my first article. He had to extend the boundaries of paradise and become a leader. However, the role of Eve was different. God created her as a complement to the man. Unfortunately, some people add some negative tones to the word complement, but that’s a totally wrong practice. You have to complete something that is incomplete. In some way that was the case of the first man without a woman. Eve completes a man, because, just as Adam, she’s created in God’s image, but she possessed different divine qualities. Adam should be a warrior, a symbol of stability and decision making. On the other hand, Eve reflects God’s mildness and sensitivity. As a result, a woman stirs a man intellectually. When they both cooperate, then they become a fine — still imperfect — image of God’s qualities. Harmony follows. He makes decisions, sometimes is too impetuous, but that’s why he has her — she becomes a balance to his wild side.
I hope you can clearly discern the role of each of them. Though Eve is not a housewife, she’s not a leader either. She’s a partner working by his side. They become one body.